Tony Clark wrote a beautiful article, Are You Being Thoughtful At This Time Of Year. One paragraph in particular struck me.
Some of us get sad, as we reflect on the lives we have and the lives we couldve had. Some of us get excited, about the possibilities of the New Year. And many of us get apathetic, just thinking about nothing in particular, content to go on with the status quo.
Some of us get sad, regretting what we have done and not done. If you're in this group, step back and think.
You are where you are. You have a life. You have a set of relationships. You have a job. You have interests. You have your personal philosophy. You have all these things because of what you have done and not done in the past, the decisions you have made, the roads you have chosen, the thoughts you have thought, the beliefs you held.
You may not be happy with the life you have built. That is okay. All change stems from a seed of discontent. But why regret what could have been? Regret serves no purpose. The past is past, never to be changed. You must deal with the consequences of your actions. The actions themselves are beyond calling back. You can only live your life starting from where you are now, at this moment. Regret, happiness, neither will change what has been. What has been has brought you to the point where you are now.
Seth used to say The point of power is in the present. Not tomorrow. Not yesterday. Now.
All actions have consequences. You live with the consequences of what you have done and thought. You will continue to live with those consequences in the future. There is no cause for regret.
To live a life with regret is to live in the past, not the present. Change in you, change in your life, can only come when you live now, when you grasp the point of power. Don't forget where you have been, what you have done, who you have helped or harmed. Cherish them. Without them you would not be who you have become. But remember, now is where you are. Archimedes said "Give me a lever long enough, and a fulcrum strong enough, and single-handed I can move the world.". Now is the fulcrum. We all possess it. Your beliefs, that which you know to be true, are your lever. Both are long enough, and strong enough to move the world. Use them.